While I was feeding Remi a bit ago, the girls took it upon themselves to very quietly cut open most of the Sweet n' Low packets, EmergenceC, and tea bags from the cupboard and then dump them together with water in a very sweet and fizzy soup. With great restraint, I called my husband and ask if he could kindly take the girls away from the house before I went ballistic -- he came right over. I'm sure he'll return soon and say, "They were perfect for me." In the meantime, Remi and I had a few moments to ourselves.
I thought it was an urban legend when I was pregnant with a boy. But moms kept telling me, over and over, that I would feel differently about my son than my daughters. "It's a special bond," they would say and I assumed they were sipping some hormonal soup. How could I "feel differently" about one gender to another?
From the moment I looked into Emma's eyes, and then Mandy's, I felt an identity to them; I was inspired to teach them everything I knew about being a woman; I felt I knew them from the moment I met them because they were like me; they would be cutely dressed in outfits I secretly wished came in my size; they would wrap their daddy around little fingers, just like I did with my dad. The girls and I have great fun together, but I am immune to their tricks of manipulation and defiance because I've been there -- done that 25-30 years ago (okay, maybe 25-30 minutes ago). Then Remington arrived and I fell in love with him in a completely different way than my girls. I am in awe of this baby boy -- I'm completely taken with him. Maybe it is because he looks just like his daddy...
(Jeff at 6 months)
Or maybe it is because Remi already seems to adore me. Sure, I'm his meal ticket, but the way he looks into my eyes, I think he is just as smitten with me as I am with him. Snuggling with him is even pleasant in the middle of the night. He is P-R-E-C-I-O-U-S.
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I know exactly how you feel. I had a son after two daughters also. I can not explain it either other than I now understand what other mothers with sons were talking about. He & I have this thing between us...oh, I can not imagine my life without him. He completes me for sure. He will be 5 in December (sniff) and I am still completely taken by him!!
Congratulations....Im not sure if I commented & told you that yet or not. I check in on a regular basis, but usually only lurk (I'm sorry!).
Blessings~
Kelly
It is so true. I remember after having Will saying "I want a whole bunch more baby boys". It is a special blessing to parent both sons and daughters. One that you never know you are missing if you only have one gender, but one you don't take for granted if you have both.
As close as I've ever come to articulating the mother/son relationship is "there's just something about a baby boy..." I'm powerless against Benton's smile and Nathaniel's big brown eyes.
You explained that so well- It is often the unknown that is so intoxicating to us!
I totally know the feeling. I was totally taken by surprise by how easy it was to fall in love with my son and how different our relationship is from the one with my daughter. Boys are whole different species, but the Mother/Son bond is a pretty special thing.
I never knew what I missed but I think I feel it with the grandsons- I assumed it was more bonding time> At any rate I love all my grandkids to death, but you are right the girls can't manipulate me near as easy as the boys.
Remington is precious, Can't wait to see him tomorrow!
What a cool feeling hey? You are right, he is precious. I can almost smell that newborn smell and feel his tiny, soft little hands and feet. Oh, how I wish I could come over and snuggle him too. Libby is still fun to cuddle but it just isn't the same with a almost one year old.
Ha...I did it again...working from Linds' computer...that last comment was from me. --manda. :)
Thank you for your post. I don't have any girls, so I don't have anything to compare my experience too. It only gets better though!!!
The first thought I had when I saw pictures of Remington: "He looks like Jeff." How fun to see your husband in your son...I know I see Nate in Jack A LOT.
Uhhhhh...Jeff looks like MANDY to me - I think your son looks like you...
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